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Creating a GOTCHA! Group

March 22, 2011

What do you and your girlfriends do for fun?  How do you like to get away and find “us” time with girlfriends?

We’ve spent two years gathering stories of how women get together in small and large groups to share and enjoy life.  We like to call these GOTCHA! groups (Grow Old Together with Courage, Health and Attitude).  We’ve talked to California Bay Area women who use their “book club without the book” to make their own beer, hold a séance, and learn the art of breathing to relax.  The Four East Coasters women’s group meets annually for a 72-hour sailing adventure complete with fine food and wine, linen napkins, skinny dipping and time to work through “serious issues.”  And five women from Maine meet twice a month at a church just to talk in a way that you can’t do on a phone call or in the grocery store line.  There is no agenda and one rule:  What is said in the group stays in the group.

Help us give other women ideas for how to have fun with their friends.  Allow them to create a circle of friends who get together in the name of friendship in a way that will support and protect us for a lifetime.  Imagine a future of “friendships by design” now and in the days and weeks and years to come!

We’d like to hear how your group of two or three gathers in the name of friendship.  Share your story here, now. Your message makes a difference to all of us.  Thank you in advance.

8 Comments leave one →
  1. Barbara Butterfield permalink
    March 28, 2011 5:36 pm

    10 of my girlfriends and I signed up to play volleyball at the local Parks & Rec (many of our daughters play on a local club volleyball team). We always meet 20 minutes or so before the game to visit and catch up. We play volleybal and after our match we have 1 quick cocktail and then back to the rat race. It’s not a lot of time, but volleyball is every Monday — we have made the commitment to the team — and it’s for us only. No Kids, Husbands or boyfriends. Most of the time all 10 show up. It’s just enough time to catch up and reconnect. Because it’s a weekly gathering, we seem to stay connected and for that 2 hours or so each week, we have no responsabilities of work or family. Really a great way for us to keep in touch

    • March 30, 2011 7:58 pm

      What a wonderful weekly healthy ritual! Barbara, thanks for sharing how you spend time with so many friends every week. Your commitment to one another is truly inspiring. So appreciate your support of our blog–and future book!

  2. Julie permalink
    March 30, 2011 9:07 am

    A few times a year, my girlfriends and I hold a clothing swap, where you bring clothes that are still cute, but not cute on you, and essentially shop for free in each others’ closets. We end up telling stories about where you wore the outfits and why you bought them and connecting our history through our clothing. Of course there’s some wine and silly dress up montages, which for an evening makes you feel like you are back in a college sorority house when female bonding was a real priority in your everyday lives.

    • March 30, 2011 7:55 pm

      Terrific way to share time with friends and get new clothes without spending a dime, Julie. Love the story telling that goes along with the fun! Thank you for supporting our blog and for all you bring to my life!

    • April 4, 2011 5:59 pm


      what a terrific, creative idea! can’t wait to suggest it to my girlfriends.



  3. Micki Stockalper Plummer permalink
    March 30, 2011 11:05 am

    First of all, the book sounds fantastic. My female friends, who range from my best friend from second grade, to college roommates, to work friends, and other mom friends, are an amazing source of joy in my life. Touching base regularly with different groups through bunco, book club, camping, walking groups, etc. is how the relationships stay strong.

    One thing I do every summer is have a swim party, just for women friends. Everyone has to wear their rattiest or funniest bathing suit (so that we can just get rid of worrying how we look), and everyone has to go down the slide at least once. As an adult, you forget how much fun it is to let loose, swim and splash in the water. It has become a great summer tradition.

    • March 30, 2011 7:54 pm

      What a great way to enjoy friends–love this idea, Micki! Thank you for commenting and for sharing how important girlfriends are in your life! So appreciate your support. Take good care!

  4. Leonora Noriega permalink
    April 26, 2011 4:00 pm

    Hi Margaret, by the way this is something my friends and I are talking about. Where to live when the age is all upon us?, of course no with our children, what to do and how to managed our living?, you know nurse, cleaning, driver, etc. and we agree to have a place where we can be all together sharing all the expenses, and in the meanwhile we just gather to have fun and see each other every 15 days and we really have a great time.

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