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Slumper Party, Anyone?

October 30, 2011

While writing a chapter in our book on what women like to do with their friends, Margaret mentioned a friend who was throwing a slumber party.  The woman had missed out when she was young and wanted to make up for it.  But when Margaret said “slumber,” I thought she meant “slumper”.

And then we thought, “Why not?”  Why not gather your girlfriends around when you are in a slump?  While we sometimes think we should hide when we’re feeling low and vulnerable.  Who wants to be around a downer?

Your friends may prefer the fun times, but women are wired to pick each other up.  Build spirits.  See the bright side.  They’re the ones who will help you shake it off, get out of the dumps, rise above it.  Add popcorn and a movie – and maybe a little chocolate and wine – and you’ve got the makings of a great slumper party.

One caveat.  Don’t get caught in a pity party by inviting the one or two who were waiting to see you down or get pleasure out of seeing others suffer.  Misery loves company and what you need right now are not those who want you to see the glass half empty.

Surround yourself by those who can help you see the possibility on the other side.  Remember Florence Chadwick, the swimmer trying to make it from Catalina to the California shore?  Tired and weary, she gave up after 15 hours of bad weather and rough waters. Within minutes of getting in the boat, the fog lifted, and she realized that the coast was less than a half mile away.

As Max Lucado says in Facing Your Giants, “Don’t be fooled by the fog of the slump.  The finish line may be only strokes away.”  While Lucado encourages us to lean on God first, and I would agree, our friends can also do wonders of a different kind.  So give ‘em a call!  Invite them over.  And get out of your slump.


4 Comments leave one →
  1. October 30, 2011 8:03 pm

    Thanks so much, Diane, for an inspirational commentary. I agree completely to lean on God first, and then turn to your women friends for comfort and reassurance, especially during slump times. Once those slump times are conquered, slumber comes much easier.

  2. Lynn Skoczelas permalink
    November 8, 2011 9:51 am

    Diane, your commentary made me think of the women in my office today. Several of us are dealing with the declining health of our mothers and fathers. And it seems like we all have our days when we are overwhelmed and emotional. It is so uplifting to be pulled from the slump of sadness and self pity and surrounded by friendship and the reminder that we are not alone. While we don’t pad around the office in PJ’s and robes drinking wine and eating chocolate enjoying a slumber party, feeling the support of friends nourishes the mind, body and soul.

    • November 27, 2011 8:12 am

      Thanks so much for your comment, Lynn. You’re so right that the support we crave can come in any environment. How great to have friends at work who contribute to each other in such positive ways!

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